The downside of being victimised in certain settings is that it defines who we are. At least, that’s what we think and assume about ourselves. The problem with life-defining moments, especially traumatic ones, is that they also come with beliefs, such as believing we don’t have rights, that we are unable to exercise our will, that we don’t have options, or that we lack the ability to negotiate in the first place. 

In this powerless and helpless state, victims tend to blame others for their hardships from then on; while this may seem like the easy option, in the long run, it will only keep them in a cycle of defeat. 

The Israelites experienced this firsthand. Because of their past captivity, they had a victim mentality, focusing on their powerless state in every given situation rather than looking to God’s power. Because of this, they chose fear instead of faith and emotions instead of obedience. 

So, what are some ways to break free from victimhood? Firstly, we need to replace our complaints with gratitude (1 Thessalonians 5:18). Secondly, we need to trust God’s faithfulness over our fears (Isaiah 41:10), and thirdly, we need to walk in obedience, regardless of feelings (James 1:22). To do all three, you will need daily reassurance. 

I believe speaking the truth in love to yourself is also essential. For instance, remind yourself that you’ve got this; it isn’t as bad as it seems. You have a voice, and you can make changes. You will get through this, and so on, until it works like clockwork in your heart and mind.